Yesterday I saw a psychologist/counselor. How do they know what kind of questions to ask? We hit it off and and I'm going back in two weeks. In the meantime, I have a little homework assignment. Move my body for thirty minutes at least three times a week. Honestly, I learned things (from the internet) that help ease sadness ... exercise, eating healthy, music, hobby, finding a new purpose, plan something for each day. But I have not been able to get myself to do a single one.
Today I walked! How can a perfect stranger inspire this action?
I suppose going to school to get a PhD in counseling really helps him know what and how to ask. And why I am not a good self counselor. It just is what it is!
I think most of us know what we have to do but the timing to do it has to be right for us to make the effort. Obviously, the timing is right for you or you wouldn't have made that appointment. And it's always easier to follow through on advice that costs you a lot of money as opposed to free stuff coming from you inner voice.
ReplyDeleteI remember going through a phase where I thought I was getting worse instead of better but I figured out that I was just running out of stuff to do that related to Don's dying---the legal stuff, disposing of his clothing, his name off accounts, etc.---and I had to start facing the rest of my life instead of closing down the past, if that makes any sense. It's like a mini mourning period again and quite predictable for widows, I'm guessing.
Oh my gosh. I think this IS what it is! Trying to face my OWN new world ... and I've never been just me, myself and I. And it IS worse now that most of the death and dying tasks are done.
ReplyDeleteYou know, Jean, even if you are just TELLING me this stuff, it sure makes me feel better.
Thanks, My Widow Friend!
Where did you get that hat? I want one! I say that phrase all the time to myself when my heart and mind starts taking me down the "Why me? Why him? How will I survive?" When I motice myself doing that I say to myself: "It is what it is. So what are you going to do about it now?! How will you live today?" I want a hat like yours!!
ReplyDeleteHi Carolyn ~ I got it here on Maui at 808 Clothing ... I just looked and they do have a website AND THE HAT IS STILL BEING SOLD! $16!
ReplyDeleteThanks for reading the blog ... and for commenting! We have to stick together!!
Heck, I've spent so much time telling myself stuff, it feels to to have someone else to tell stuff to instead. LOL
ReplyDeleteI love that hat phrase, too, but I look awful in baseball hats.
Ha ha Jean! Not many look good in baseball caps! But I wear them anyway!
ReplyDeleteThanks! I wear them only when walking. I shall go find that website! It is what it is. Neither overly pessimistic nor overly optimistic...just realistic. It IS what it is.
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