Monday, January 5, 2015


Maui would be SOOOO much more fun with Mr. Ralph.  It's a little sad remembering the fun we had here ... the future projects.  Sitting on the back lanai every morning with coffee and papaya.  I am having to make a real effort to be happy.

One of the first widow things I did 20 months ago was to buy a new perfume.  Coincidentally, it is called Happy (by Clinique).  I don't normally wear perfume but since I've been here, I put a little dab on every day.  A conscious effort to remember to be happy.  

Now I am trying to get in the habit of listening to music.  Upbeat happy music.  Even the song Happy!  Even old people lip syncing Happy.  Happy is as happy does.  

It's progress, though, isn't it?  Now I don't wallow in my sadness for more than 15 minutes at a time.  It's healthy to cry and release those hormones.  Read the article The Miracle of Tears (Jerry Bergman) for these top reasons that crying helps heal us physiologically, psychologically, and spiritually.

1)  Tears help us see better
2)  Tears kill bacteria
3)  Tears remove toxins
4)  Crying can elevate mood (I always feel better after!)
5)  Crying lowers stress
6)  Tears build community
7)  Tears release feelings

See!  I'm feeling happier already!


  1. You rock, Girl ! I'm happier, too!

  2. I love that song! Makes me happy every time I hear it.

  3. Enjoyed the video. I need to watch it every morning to jumpstart my day!

    It will be interesting to see how you are feeling at the end of your visit, and after you return home for awhile. Things may clarify, and it may be easier to make a decision.

  4. It's a great song! People have told me how therapeutic tears are. They just scare me because I am afraid if I allow to many to come, I just might start sobbing and then howling and all that scares me. You know I feel the need to be in control. :-(