One of the first widow things I did 20 months ago was to buy a new perfume. Coincidentally, it is called Happy (by Clinique). I don't normally wear perfume but since I've been here, I put a little dab on every day. A conscious effort to remember to be happy.
It's progress, though, isn't it? Now I don't wallow in my sadness for more than 15 minutes at a time. It's healthy to cry and release those hormones. Read the article The Miracle of Tears (Jerry Bergman) for these top reasons that crying helps heal us physiologically, psychologically, and spiritually.
1) Tears help us see better
2) Tears kill bacteria
3) Tears remove toxins
4) Crying can elevate mood (I always feel better after!)
5) Crying lowers stress
6) Tears build community
7) Tears release feelings
See! I'm feeling happier already!