I'm very choosy when it comes to words. I love the dictionary and the thesaurus. Especially now that is at my fingertips on the computer! Words can have so many different meanings. Some very close to getting my point across but just not quite right.
Recently I was called an old mean girl. A bully.
Which made me think this person thought I was aggressive? Look at the choices of synonyms. In my mind, aggressive has mostly negative connotations. Hostile, belligerent, antagonistic, truculent, pushy.
Assertive, in my mind, is a quality. A trait for success ... in business and in personal relationships. Confident, assured, decisive. I admire assertive people.
My philosophy is to have a conversation. NOT a confrontation.