I am not a mean girl. Everyone who knows me would agree. If I ever have hurt someone's feelings, it has never been on purpose. EVER.
Nor am I a bully. I grew up at the bottom of the school cliques. Nerdish in fact. I was bullied but nothing very major. Enough to know I would never do that to anyone. EVER.
This past month a neighbor/friend in Oregon has been at the brunt of a bullying episode with her 14 year old daughter. In a chi chi zip code. And I think THAT is what makes it worse. Highly educated, wealthy. I feel so bad for her and her parents yet PROUD that they are standing up to this. I am doing everything I can do to help.
Young lady was SOOO excited to land a spot on the high school dance team. A team bonding party would help all the new members get to know each other. Coach said pizza, movies, conversation and fun! Instead it was humiliation ... boys (not on the dance team) threw water balloons at the newbies at full force. Later they were forced to slather maple syrup on themselves and wrestle in feathers. Made to walk in the Willamette River, barefoot, in the dark of night. Tossed into cars and trucks with no seat belts. There is more but you get the picture.
When this little lady confided in her parents, of course they called the coach. Who scoffed at this little "initiation." They went to the school. No one did a thing EXCEPT taunt the whistle blower. Even the coach ... via text message. These brave parents went to the police and finally, to the press.
Only then did people pay attention. At a recent school meeting the other parents screamed at the family saying nothing happened, just let these girls dance. The family had to file restraining orders for their daughter ... against some of the teams' parents!
My daughter went to this high school. It was bad back then. IF you had money or influence, your child could smoke pot in the hallway at school (ZERO TOLERANCE FOR DRUGS), and get a week's detention after school. A neighbor being raised by grandparents was suspended for two weeks for smoking pot NEAR the school. Ridiculous.
Bullying seems to be running rampant in our country. It is appalling. Yesterday I was accused of being an "old mean girl" on another blog. NOT. I'm this close to republishing my blog. It is all true and I only wrote after this person QUIT a key volunteer position and hyped it up on their own ... blaming it on everyone else and then emailed it to the entire "confidential" mailing list.
I just don't feel that vindictive. Or mean. Or bullying. But if I change my mind, this time I will put in actual names. Just sayin.