Saturday, February 4, 2017

NO LONGER AN AWKWARD WIDOW

After three and a half years, I can usually talk about Mr. Ralph without crying.  Not always, but most of the time.  It's a joy to be back with Kate and her family.  She misses her Dad almost as much as I miss him.

His birthday was January 31 and we wanted to celebrate.  Usually they go to his favorite restaurant but it is no longer Italian ... now very spicy nouveau Mexican.  It's hard to take a three year old out to a restaurant, so we brought in Mr. Ralph's second favorite food .... Chinese!  I made a cherry cobbler for a special dessert.


Even though Deacon never got to meet him, he talks about him as if he did (and does!)

Some blogger friends change the name of their blog, maybe starting out as widow friends, but change to suit their now lives.  I think I am just going to keep the same name.  Just know that life is not as awkward.

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  1. That's a nice tradition to have a special meal in honor of Ralph's birthday. We're going to think about our spouses then anyway, might as well make it a positive experience to look forward to each year, especially with the two little ones.

    I'm not changing my blog name either. Hard enough to come up with first name!

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    1. Name changes are hard to keep up with ... unless I get email notification of each article. If I did change, I'd probably go with Thug Life ...

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    2. LOL If you did, your un-moderated comments would be, shall we say, interesting.

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    3. Ah ha ha ha! For sure. But now I moderate before I publish comments!!!

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  2. This is cool. Wouldn't have worked in my family while my Dad was alive however. Once the person has died, it's like they never existed. Don't talk about it, don't think about it and the sadness will just go away. Yeah. Right!!!!! Every now and then, I bring up a "Remember when Great Grandma....."--my kids love talking about their memories.

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    1. My extended family is much like that. Kate especially talks about him a lot so Braeden won't forget. I'm so glad I have photos of the two of them! I made him a photo book a while back. And Poppa recorded a Thomas the Tank Engine book for him ... it always startles us when he opens it to listen ...

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  3. "Thug Life" Ha! I dare you.
    Nice tradition. What sweet boys they are.

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  4. Beautiful that you are keeping Ralph's life alive with your family. Just beautiful.
    I met you days after Ralph's death and have always felt like I just missed him. But his passing brought us together, through closets of all things, and for this I am deeply grateful as well.
    xoxo

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    1. We would have made a fabulous foursome, for sure! DDA kinda reminds me of Mr. Ralph. Miss you both!

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  5. I'm laughing in recognition, being a blog name shifter, though the web address itself never changes. What am I to call you now, AW? Thuggie?

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  6. The Adjusted Widow now? The Awesome Widow? Oh well, no need to change blog name. I just wanted a title that would allow me to write about anything, set in any time frame.

    Coincidentally, after reading your blog I heard some news item discussing some criminals, describing them as thugs but in such a way no one race could conceivably be implicated. I think theire are social network computer users who get their kicks just commenting contrary comments to anything just to upset others. Maybe that's what you got -- best to just ignore.

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    1. I'll just keep my same title ... my awkward widow life is evolving! And I agree .... some snowflakes just love to argue and demean or "inform"

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