Saturday, January 18, 2014
FRIENDS and ACQUAINTANCES
There is a big difference between friends and acquaintances. I may have been confusing the two.
I am learning something from that. My goal is to have a circle of support. My mistake is thinking everyone had to be my close friend ... when actually having friendly acquaintances is what I am needing. Someone to go to eat with. Or to a movie. Or sunset. I'm learning that I don't have to like everything about everybody. We each have something in common and I need to overlook the things that aren't my cup of tea.
Up to a point. Hopefully I can learn to extend my "point" or circle to include more people. Maybe we have fewer things in common ... walking or swim aerobics or bridge ... and simple chit chat. That's okay! I'm not going to hit it off with everyone but I can enjoy what seems to work. Not every person will become a friend, in my definition.
My close friendships need care and attention on a regular basis. We share more details of our life, ups and downs. I need to give as much as receive. Yet I think I can be friendly with more people just not as intense.
So I'm trying to look at the people in my life being on the highway in a major city. Some are in the beltway. Some are in the outer belts. In fact, Beijing has SEVEN rings of traffic.
I'm up to this!