Friday, September 30, 2016

CELEBRATING IN SOLITUDE

Wednesday would have been our 32nd wedding anniversary.

I remember every detail of our big "to do" as if it were yesterday.  Rushing out of the office right at 4pm, driving home to meet up with my soon-to-be husband, his son and my sister.  A two hour drive to the Oregon Coast.  A Justice of the Courts pronouncing us legal at sunset overlooking the beach.  Jeans and sweaters.  Celebrating with clam chowder and champagne.  And so it began.

Mostly ups... a few downs.  Constant communication no matter what.  And a good dose of compromise.

This year I didn't distract myself.  I enjoyed my memories and wallowed in my sadness.  Alone.  

At a friend's wedding, June 2006

I sure do miss him ....

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  1. You two sure looked happy. I'm glad you were able to enjoy your memories this year. That's a bittersweet sign of acceptance and moving forward, something we all must do in our own time and place.

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    1. We were pretty darned happy all the time ... like we had good sense! Can't even tell it was 104 degrees and no a/c ....

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  2. What a handsome guy. Both of you look so happy in that photo. Clam chowder and champagne sound like the perfect way to kick off a life together. I know you have lots of wonderful memories, and you celebrated in a way that honored that.

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    1. We started out with almost nothing. And look at me now! Hard work, perseverance and a bit of good luck!

      Time sure does help the healing of grief.

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  3. Now when I get those kinds of memories, I find myself smiling, instead of feeling blue. it all takes time and comes to each of us in our own time. Gosh--you too were cuties!!!

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    1. Yes, me too! Remembering all the good memories, big or small. Cute! Thank you. Ten years and 50 lbs ago .....

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  4. Too short a time with that sweetheart! It's lovely to honor both him, and the skills that kept your marriage so buoyant. Wasn't just pretty looks, though you have these, too!

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    1. Always too short .... even if 50+ years. My Dad was lost without my Mom ..

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