Tuesday, January 5, 2016

TOLERATED? OR CELEBRATED?


This is the time of year many of us reflect on what we want out of this new year.   Or life.  Or even just today.

I have many friends who believe in their past lives.  If I had one, I sure don't remember it.  And I'm not interested in delving back many centuries to figure it out.  I'm pretty sure I was a Goddess of some sort!

The above photo was on a friend's Facebook page and it just reminded me of Mr. Ralph.  That man cherished me.  Simple as that.  Like it was his job to make sure I was happy and loved.  Every meal I made for him, he thanked me.  Every day he asked about what happened in my world.  Every day I received a compliment.

It was reciprocal.  In the most loving way ... not as payback or that I owed it to him.  I was his personal cheerleader.  I enjoyed helping to make his life easier.  He was employed (high stress ... running a company with 100+ employees) and I would find simple ways to relieve the burden.  Fortunately, I knew most of the employees there and had electronic access to his calendar.  I made his hair appointments, doctor and dental appointments and put Kate's school activities on so he could try to plan around them.  I kept track of prescription refills for him.  He loved having friends over and I entertained with him a LOT.  
I'm glad I had almost 29 years of being celebrated.  Once in a lifetime experience, I'm sure.


5 comments:

  1. Good advice in that picture at the top. Sometimes I think widows like you and me who had great relationships have an easier time with grief recovery. I don't mean we don't grief as deeply or for as long. But we don't have to deal with emotions of wasted years or what we could have done differently to make a so-so marriage better. We have good memories to fall back on, too.

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    1. Pure luck in my case! It was a very fun journey together ... most of the time!

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  2. Once in a lifetime indeed! Cherished--such a glorious word.. I had that feeling with Fred. :-)

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    1. And even if we only experience that once ... it sure was enough for me ...

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  3. I had that feeling with mine, too - celebrated. for the most part. LOL

    Now, to capture that joie de vivre without skinny dipping into the past : -)

    P.S. This wonderful picture is going to show up on my blog!

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