I saw this on a Facebook page and it really just sums it all up. For me. Today. It never goes away. I don't know how the spouse feels when they marry someone who lost a spouse. Knowing their new spouse will always love another person. Nothing they can do about it. Nothing to be jealous of. But "it" will always be there.
Not sure I could ever love anyone else because I know how much I will always love Mr. Ralph. At this point in my life, I couldn't love anyone who lost their love ... something would just be missing.
Not all marriages are equal so I guess some people could/do remarry successfully without living with ghosts. Not me, not ever. I also think there are some people who are less independent than you (or me) who just can't function without someone else to share the load and they will settle into a second marriage quicker than others. I guess the only rule we need to know is that there are no rules.
ReplyDeleteNo rules. And to each her own.
DeleteFrom my experience--men seem to want/need to marry again, quickly. I don't know why. To immerse themselves in someone new so they won't feel their grief so much? Better to date a divorced man--he has NO good memories of his wife, LOL.
ReplyDeleteI agree that men need women more than most women need men. Ha ha ha ... divorced men!!!!
DeleteA couple of years after losing her husband, my sister married a man whose wife had died a couple of years earlier. There's no doubt that their marriage to each other is different than their marriages with their previous spouses. I do see that they have companionship and are devoted to one another, though. I've had a very long marriage and cannot imagine being with another man, but I guess that's hard for most people to imagine while their husband is still alive. My health is not as good as my husband's, and I do think about life for him if I go first. But you know how life is. You never know who will go first. Still, I can't wear your shoes, but I can certainly understand your take on this. I feel very much the same way.
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